THE THREE COMPONENTS OF ATTRACTION:
Value, Attainability, and Compliance.
VALUE
"Value" is something that fills a conscious or subconscious need for a person. What is valuable is unique to every single person, but there are a set of traits that are valuable to almost everyone. These traits - like confidence, charisma, and leadership - are valuable to almost any woman. Many traits will be valuable to one type of woman but not another.
The traits that are almost universally valuable (and thus, attractive) should be universally developed, so that you're perceived as having them with minimal effort on your part.
Twenty of the most common universally valuable traits follow:
Ambition
Charisma
Confidence
Creativity
Desire to Reproduce
Dominance
Emotionally Steadfast
Empathy
Health
Humor
Intelligence
Leadership
Passion For Something in Life
Popular
Protects One's Own
Quick Reflexes
Quick Wit
Sociable
Survival Instincts
Worldliness
The items with asterisks are developed directly by social training. More than half of them - That's more than any other sub-set of life. Our interactions with people dominate how our value is assessed. Many of the other traits on the list can be demonstrated even if not already possessed. How?
THE THREE WAYS VALUE IS PERCEIVED
1. Presence: If you've ever seen a great comedian, often he'll walk onto stage, and just STARE at the crowd until - they start laughing. This is a person with the presence of a sense of humor. Likewise, a very confidence person seems to just ooze or emanate confidence. A healthy person need do no more than be present to show he is healthy.
This path takes significant time to develop, but once you've done it - you need make no effort. If you develop yourself into a charismatic person, which can be done with training and practice, then you simply need to do no more than show up for people to know you're charismatic. You have that presence.
2. The Appearance: "A prince need not possess princely qualities. He merely needs the appearance of princely qualities." - Niccolo Machiavelli
Machiavelli is largely right. If you're not a leader, you can still develop the body language and walking patterns of a confident leader. This will give you the appearance of being a leader. You'll be perceived as being a leader which is good for your value right away.
By affecting the appearance of a leader, you will be treated as others by a leader. You'll become more of a leader over time. Developing the appearance of a trait you don't have, such as popularity, is a crucial step on the way to becoming popular. This is "Fake it 'till you make it" done correctly, and actually making it.
Value, Attainability, and Compliance.
VALUE
"Value" is something that fills a conscious or subconscious need for a person. What is valuable is unique to every single person, but there are a set of traits that are valuable to almost everyone. These traits - like confidence, charisma, and leadership - are valuable to almost any woman. Many traits will be valuable to one type of woman but not another.
The traits that are almost universally valuable (and thus, attractive) should be universally developed, so that you're perceived as having them with minimal effort on your part.
Twenty of the most common universally valuable traits follow:
Ambition
Charisma
Confidence
Creativity
Desire to Reproduce
Dominance
Emotionally Steadfast
Empathy
Health
Humor
Intelligence
Leadership
Passion For Something in Life
Popular
Protects One's Own
Quick Reflexes
Quick Wit
Sociable
Survival Instincts
Worldliness
The items with asterisks are developed directly by social training. More than half of them - That's more than any other sub-set of life. Our interactions with people dominate how our value is assessed. Many of the other traits on the list can be demonstrated even if not already possessed. How?
THE THREE WAYS VALUE IS PERCEIVED
1. Presence: If you've ever seen a great comedian, often he'll walk onto stage, and just STARE at the crowd until - they start laughing. This is a person with the presence of a sense of humor. Likewise, a very confidence person seems to just ooze or emanate confidence. A healthy person need do no more than be present to show he is healthy.
This path takes significant time to develop, but once you've done it - you need make no effort. If you develop yourself into a charismatic person, which can be done with training and practice, then you simply need to do no more than show up for people to know you're charismatic. You have that presence.
2. The Appearance: "A prince need not possess princely qualities. He merely needs the appearance of princely qualities." - Niccolo Machiavelli
Machiavelli is largely right. If you're not a leader, you can still develop the body language and walking patterns of a confident leader. This will give you the appearance of being a leader. You'll be perceived as being a leader which is good for your value right away.
By affecting the appearance of a leader, you will be treated as others by a leader. You'll become more of a leader over time. Developing the appearance of a trait you don't have, such as popularity, is a crucial step on the way to becoming popular. This is "Fake it 'till you make it" done correctly, and actually making it.
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What's the Attraction? @ 2008-10-17 16:02:00.0 di Mystery PUA